3 Advanced Strategies For Increasing Emotional Intelligence 

It’s been a tough year for so many. Have you been overwhelmed by stress? 

Those waves of emotions can easily knock you off your feet. That’s why mastering emotional intelligence is key. 

Many people think emotional intelligence is a touchy-feely, vulnerable, unimportant topic. When in reality, it’s the secret to better decision making, better health, and greater mental resilience. 

This isn’t just about how you feel, this is tapping into something much deeper. 

It’s time to engage with those in your life, lean forward, have those difficult conversations, and navigate your emotions with excellence. And you’ll feel better too!

Here are my 3 advanced strategies for increasing your emotional intelligence.

1. Have a life philosophy and an ideal emotional experience in mind

This is something that’s rarely talked about these days. If you don’t have vision for how you want to feel or what you want your relationships to look like, you’ll be lost. 

Oftentimes we’re so outcome-driven that we forget to talk about how the journey itself should feel like. If we just show up each day and live in reaction, we tend to feel terrible. That’s not an emotionally intelligent way to deal with life. You need to develop greater vision again. 

Ask yourself, “How do I want to feel? What should the day feel like to me?” Stop fighting fires of reaction and reclaim your vision!

2. Observe your emotions and step-through your interpretations

It’s time to start monitoring your emotions, feelings, and moods. Then ask WHY you’re having those and ask what are the consequences of those emotions, feelings, and moods. 

Now, it’s important to recognize the difference between emotions, feelings, and moods. In psychology, emotions are more automatic. They hit you like a wave as a response to stimuli. Feelings are longer-term interpretations of emotions that you apply meaning to. Lastly, moods are a pattern of those feelings happening more often. Your emotions may be automatic, but your mind interprets them into something that could be far more lasting. 

Navigating your own emotions is so important if you want to direct your mindset to something positive. When you do have a stimulus, you need to slow down that response time and step it through. Think it through, versus reacting and having that negative emotion become incorporated into your identity. 

It’s an elevated perspective. When faced with a troubling emotion, ask yourself, “How would my best self deal with this?”

3. Bring the feelings you want to experience into daily life

The more you summon the joy, the better prepared you’ll be when the world falls apart. 

How do you bring it? First, make sure you have vision. 

Next, ask yourself every day, “How do I bring this emotion into this?” Engage with that desired emotion. It’s learning to make the activities and tasks of your life a joyful process, instead of bemoaning them. Bring that joy and intention into your daily life, even in your relationships! 

Do not sacrifice good emotions in your life just because other people aren’t summoning them or doing the work. If you’re the high performer in your community, it’s okay if people aren’t on the same page as you. 

Changing other people isn’t the goal. It’s about doing the work for yourself.

When it comes to doing the work, taking 10 minutes to journal is enough to see long lasting benefits. That's why we created this simple worksheet with 3 reflection questions to help you increase your emotional intelligence, which you can only access by signing up to our weekly newsletter! So signup on our website and start receiving these weekly exercises.


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